We’ve all been there, you meet somebody who will make a significant impact on your life.
You talk, you relate, you grow close and share deep thoughts with one another; a friendship forms. Suddenly that person is in your life, whether you like it or not, and you think they will always be there for you when you need someone to talk too, but this isn’t always the case.
Life happens. Life gets in the way. People have responsibilities—sports, family, school, relationships—and consequently you are no longer a priority, and vica verca.
You and this person used to keep up with what was happening in each other’s lives, but things change. Slowly, you start to lose touch with this person, maybe only catching up every couple months or so.
Maybe you graduate, maybe one moves away, or maybe you never lived in the same place to start. Suddenly this person becomes nothing more than an account on social media. You follow each other, you like each other’s photos occasionally, but the connection is lost. That person who once was a best-friend, is now nothing more than an Instagram photo, a Snapchat story, a tweet.
This saddens you, especially when remembering all the good times you had with this person, and all the plans you had for the future. You could message this person to catch up, and they will probably say yes, but you know it’s not the same; the connection is lost and you never get passed the obligatory small talk. You don’t fixate on this person, you have a busy life yourself, but you never fully forget them.
This is something everybody has been through. We’ve faced this fact from the minute we stepped into grade school, when you get put into a separate class as your best friend. We continue to face this fact throughout our lives. Friends get married, they have kids, and it happens again, you are no longer a priority. This happens to you as often as you do it to others.
So, what do you do? What is the correct course of action? Nothing.
There’s nothing you can do, it is a part of nature, and not meant to be changed. You move on. You bury yourself in work. You create something fresh, new, exciting. You meet new people and make new connections, and you enjoy every minute of it, because you know that these people will not always be in your life.
Maybe you’re in a coffee shop years later, and maybe you bump into said person, maybe you catch up, maybe you laugh about old times, and maybe that connection gets rekindled. Maybe.